Professor William James, the father of applied psychology, has been dead since 1910. But if he were alive today, and could hear this formula for facing the worst, he would heartily approve of it. How do I know that? Because he told his own students: “Be willing to have it so… Be willing to have it so,” he said, because “…acceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.
Psychiatrists declare that most of our fatigue derives from our mental and emotional attitudes… What kinds of emotional factors tire the sedentary (or sitting) worker? Joy? Contentment? No! Never! Boredom, resentment, a feeling of not being appreciated, a feeling of futility, hurry, anxiety, worry–those are the emotional factors that exhaust the sitting worker, make him susceptible to colds, reduce his output, and send him home with a nervous headache. Yes, we get tired because our emotions produce nervous tensions in the body.
Your heart pumps enough blood through your body every day to fill a railway tank car. It exerts enough energy every twenty-four hours to shovel twenty tons of coal onto a platform three feet high. It does this incredible amount of work for fifty, seventy, or maybe ninety years. How can it stand it? Dr. Walter B. Cannon, of the Harvard Medical School, explained it. He said “Most people have the idea that the heart is working all the time. As a matter of fact, there is a definite rest period after each contraction. When beating at a moderate rate of seventy pulses per minute, the heart is actually working only nine hours out of the twenty-four. In the aggregate its rest periods total a full fifteen hours per day.
Experience has proved to me, time after time, the enormous value of arriving at a decision. It is the failure to arrive at a fixed purpose, the inability to stop going around and round in maddening circles, that drives men to nervous breakdowns and living hells. I find that fifty per cent of my worries vanishes once I arrive at a clear, definite decision; and another forty per cent usually vanishes once I start to carry out that decision.So, I banish about 90 per cent of my worries by taking these four steps:Writing down precisely what I am worried about.Writing down what I can do about it.Deciding what to do.Starting immediately to carry out that decision”.
Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.
Did you ever see an unhappy horse?
Did you ever see bird that had the blues?
One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because
they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming
interested in other people than you can in two years
of trying to get other people interested in you.
What is the answer to this fatigue? Relax! Relax! Relax! Learn to relax while you are doing your work!
We are all dreaming of some magical
rose garden over the horizon-instead of
enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.
Seventy per cent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they got rid of their fears and worries.
We are all dreaming of some
magical rose garden over the horizon-
instead of enjoying the roses
blooming outside our windows today.
Dealing with people is probably the biggest problem you face, especially if you are in business. Yes, and that is also true if you are a housewife, architect or engineer.
People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most do.
So, to prevent fatigue and worry, the first rule is: Rest often. Rest before you get tired.
I realize now that people are not thinking about you and me or caring what is said about us. They are thinking about themselves—before breakfast, after breakfast, and right on until ten minutes past midnight. They would be a thousand times more concerned about a slight headache of their own than they would about the news of your death or mine.
The man who goes farthest is generally
the one who is willing to do and dare.
The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore.
George Bernard Shaw was right. He summed it all up when he said: “The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not”. So don’t bother to think about it! Spit on your hands and get busy. Your blood will start circulating; your mind will start ticking–and pretty soon this whole positive upsurge of life in your body will drive worry from your mind. Get busy. Keep busy. It’s the cheapest kind of medicine there is on this earth–and one of the best.
Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you
believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will
find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.
Some readers are going to snort at the idea of making so much over a hackneyed proverb like “Don’t cry over spilt milk”. I know it is trite, commonplace, a platitude. I know you have heard it a thousand times. But I also know that these hackneyed proverbs contain the very essence of the distilled wisdom of all ages. They have come out of the fiery experience of the human race and have been handed down through countless generations. If you were to read everything that has ever been written about worry by the great scholars of all time, you would never read anything more basic or more profound than such hackneyed proverbs as “Don’t cross your bridges until you come to them” and “Don’t cry over spilt milk”. If we only applied those two proverbs–instead of snorting at them–we wouldn’t need this book at all. In fact, if we applied most of the old proverbs, we would lead almost perfect lives. However, knowledge isn’t power until it is applied; and the purpose of this book is to remind you of what you already know and to kick you in the shins and inspire you to do something about applying it.
One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all
of us tend to put off living.
We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-
instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.
Success is getting what you want.
Happiness is wanting what you get.
So let’s be content to live the only time we can possibly live: from now until bedtime. “Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, from now until nightfall,” wrote Robert Louis Stevenson. “Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all that life really means”.
Act as if you were already happy and that will tend to make you happy.
Most of the important things in the world
have been accomplished by people who have kept
on trying when there seemed to be no help at all.
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